I went and visited my grandma on Mother's Day this past Sunday. And as usual she asked how I was doing, to which she got a "good, good" from me, and I got a smile from her. She then asked if I have a boyfriend, and I said "no", and in return I got a sour/sad face with a slight "ooh". I'm not quite sure how I should have reacted, but I feel I handled it like a boss by just smiling.
With me being at the age I am and unmarried, I get the question a lot when I run into long lost friends/neighbors/co-workers, etc. And I get a lot of different reactions, but mostly I get the response "well that's ok". Yep, I know it's ok and here's why:
I've embraced my singleness.
Do I get lonely sometimes? Yes. Do I wish I had someone to snuggle with that isn't covered in fur? Yes. But I have ways to compensate until the right guy comes along.
I feel at the age I am I have the right to be a little picky on who I want to eventually spend my life with. Just because most of the guys I come across are divorced with children (no kids for me), or have never seen a real woman, doesn't mean I have to settle. I know that there is the right one out there, and I can be patient. And if he happens to be divorced with children, then so be it. Although he better be damn near perfect in all other ways.
I'm not single for lack of trying either. I've tried several different dating websites with either no luck or horrible results. I've tried the blind dating scene with about the same results. And with my non-religious and non-bar-going (well from time to time) status, it makes it that much harder. Which in turns makes me a little discouraged, until I remind myself how awesome I am and that most guys are just too dense to realize this.
But seriously, just because I live in a state where the average age to marry is 19, doesn't mean that I'm an old hag who will never experience love. It just means that I'm well seasoned, and more prepared for real life. And there's nothing wrong with that.
So no fear grandma, I will one day find my prince charming, it's just taking longer than my siblings, friends, cousins, co-workers, oh hell the rest of the world, but one day he will come.
And to all a good day!
P.S. Below is a link to a fun article/blog post from hellogiggles.com on this very subject. Enjoy!